tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808546653951084662.post6015724073394678896..comments2022-08-05T05:12:07.469-07:00Comments on Charis Loveland: I see you, Amanda Palmercharismamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17145150038502630249noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808546653951084662.post-55144978382811831872015-01-27T07:11:27.546-08:002015-01-27T07:11:27.546-08:00I'm glad to see that you changed your language...I'm glad to see that you changed your language around that incident, though you still imply that his action led to "hurt feelings and drama." I followed that link, and it appears Brian clearly and articulately stated that the band was finished in an interview. That seems pretty innocuous. I would have handled things a lot worse, if I had been in Brian's position. <br /><br />Please keep in mind that you're writing about real people on a public forum, real people who you don't know. Or worse, know from a book written by Amanda Palmer (that, as you admit, "skims over" one of the most intimate relationship in her life - yes, with Brian Viglione). <br /><br />One last thing: Brian was never "her drummer". Brian and Amanda founded the Dresden Dolls together. He contributed to the band's musicianship and image as much or more than Amanda did. The band never would have existed without Brian. Amanda certainly would never have attracted the attention of a record label without playing with a talent like Brian. <br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808546653951084662.post-2287026443910023522015-01-26T04:04:05.193-08:002015-01-26T04:04:05.193-08:00Please know that when I stated "something som...Please know that when I stated "something someone did" I commented on the specific incident of Brian posting on a video that the band was over. I claim to know nothing about the full, complex nature of his relationship to Amanda. The individuals involved get to choose what they are willing to disclose. All we can hope for is to draw reasonable conclusions according to what we know and our instincts. I appreciate your perspective, and wish Brian a long and successful career and life. charismamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17145150038502630249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808546653951084662.post-89422759031933453042015-01-25T20:19:24.760-08:002015-01-25T20:19:24.760-08:00I commented that Amanda is not monogamous and does...I commented that Amanda is not monogamous and doesn't live with her husband because it relates to how little time she spends with her husband. I could care less (and have friends who have made the same choices, which I support). As I already said, in real time, Amanda has spent far more time with Brian, and yet this relationship is barely addressed in her book. Which is weird, and an obvious gap.<br /><br />Amanda is the queen of "hurt feelings and drama," yet you attribute the origina of this to Brian, who could not be a nicer human being. If you're going to buy her story, at least stop opining on the people who she left failing in her wake. Ironically, you comment on how shitty criticism is for Amanda, and yet you rip into Brian with some presumption about things he did. But I guess it doesn't matter because you don't "know" him, like you think you know Amanda? Of course Brian will never write a book because what he cares about is music, not fame. <br /><br />Watching the shit show that is Amanda Palmer's career, I have concluded that only a narcissist could desire fame, the way she does. It's been an interesting experience to watch, but it's too much when someone rips into someone with as much integrity as Brian Viglione. He's just trying to do his thing, which is make music as good as anyone can. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808546653951084662.post-70034184047189939232015-01-25T10:41:56.522-08:002015-01-25T10:41:56.522-08:00I do think I know more about Amanda now. You can&#...I do think I know more about Amanda now. You can't get unfiltered access to someone's brain, so I appreciate and respect what she chose to share. If and when Brian ever writes a book, I'll read that with an open mind. Successful people always attract their share of critics, and I hope that one day my skin will be half as thick as Amanda's. And may I assume you think it's an insult to say that Amanda and Neil live separately and have an open relationship? To each their own. I view your comment as discriminatory. Good for them about being open about their true selves. If only more people could display such bravery in a judgmental world.charismamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17145150038502630249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808546653951084662.post-24884216821293178622015-01-25T10:05:20.334-08:002015-01-25T10:05:20.334-08:00Do you think you know more about Amanda after read...Do you think you know more about Amanda after reading what she tells you about herself and people around her than someone who was intimately involved with her for years does? Perhaps that "something someone did" that you attribute to Brian was the last straw after dealing with someone completely narcissistic, controlling, and manipulative for so many years? In her book, Amanda also barely addresses her historical relationship with Brian, her so-called musical "soul mate," even though they were together as bandmates far longer in time and years than she's been with her current husband (with whom she doesn't live and isn't monagamous). So, is the book honest? Or, is it a carefully manipulated narrative that leaves you with the impression she's a balanced, loving, forgiving human being who can be your role model? You probably don't care though. That's the lovely result of fame for a narcissist like Amanda. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com